People who cant let things go

angelbaby453 · Posted: Mon Oct 15, 2007 7:21 pm Post subject: People who cant let things go

Ok, my relationship has recently ended and though i was and am very sad about it, my ex has decided that he is mortally insulted by the fact that i might have a possibility of living without him and being ok. i wont go into the whole sad sordid tale except to say that it wasnt ultimately anyones fault... we just couldnt get along, but he went on a vindictive spree and now there are EPO's between us and social workers showing up at my door. Then on top of that i am at a friends house today, a friend who happens to be his ex as well (and a member of infohub), and an officer pulls up saying that my ex reported that my being there was a violation of the epo since his kids (who he doesnt have custody of) lived there. well the officer looked at my copy of the epo (which i carry b/c of this stupid crap) and laughed about it with us but the lengths he is going to, just to make my life miserable is really shocking. I just want to move on, easy come easy go and he finds that a personal insult (PS he is the one who left and filed the first of the epo's), i am just having trouble understanding his level of anger at me just because i want to be happy without him.

Lil_iodine54 · Posted: Mon Oct 15, 2007 8:07 pm Post subject:

What she says is true......he can't stand seeing other people happy without him. I think his ego has been bruised. His attitude and prejudice make it impossible to maintain any long-term friendships. As soon as the facade wears off, people stop coming around. Five children with three women over a period of four years......you tell me if he's right in the head?

**Vicious88** · Posted: Mon Oct 15, 2007 10:56 pm Post subject:

He's not in a right frame of mind. He's obsessed, and his focus has fallen onto control. He doesn't want you to be happy, or for that fact, even content, without him in your life. Perhapes he has handled the break up worse than you have and he feels you should experience his pain, but more than likely he is simply bent of revenge because you are capable experiencing joy without him...

This is a sadly common event. The best thing you can do is hope that he moves on and quickly. Perhapes pray that losing you will be the shock his system needed to make him change his ways.

If things get too rough, there is always the police. From the events of today you have a variety of legal and cival options you can claim: Harrasment, Defermation of Character, Slander, Filing false police reports, ect, ect... And if the police things don't work out for you, there are always people with the ability to completely destroy his way of life, just in case you're the revenge type.
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**sweetie79** · VIP Joined: 29 Sep 2007 Posts: 384 Location: Home

Unfortunately he has not been in the "right frame of mind" for the entire time that I have known him... I am just glad that she (angelbaby) found out what he was really like before she had to go through everything that I went through... He can't stand the fact that anyone can be happy without the happiness surrounding him and his actions... he purposly told lies to keep angelbaby and i from being friends in the first place. He has used the law so many times as a weapon, it isn't funny. I swear the court house knows him by name now... and if he hasn't changed after my knowing him for about 7 - 7 1/2 years, he ain't about to change now...

We all wish him the best life has to offer, but we all agreed that he would probably screw that up too.
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**Vicious88** · Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 8:37 am Post subject:

*smiles maliciously*

Well there's always the revenge option.
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angelbaby453 · Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 4:19 pm Post subject: revenge

As much as i feel like htting him with my ca everytime i see him, anyone who knows him pretty much knows letting him live his life the way he does is the best revenge possible.

**Vicious88** · Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 4:44 pm Post subject:

While I personally don't know the guy, I still am somehow compelled to believe that having a GPS Satellite crash into your house is far better revenge than letting him waste his life away. Somehow I'm just sure his homeowner's insurance won't cover it. Force Majore ("Act of God") after all. Or maybe having your computer suddenly start lagging, then burst into flames... Both seem like good revenges.

But its not up to me, lol.
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angelbaby453 · Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 6:11 pm Post subject: a dish best served cold

No i think being condemned to a long lonely life with lots of time to reflect on everything he has done will be far better than the relative mercy of a quick death, beleive me if you knew the guy, almost 30, cant keep a job,child support to pay on 5 kids, no car, no where to live, everyone who has ever met him hates him... he is better left alive. Still theres nothing to say a terrible,horribly disfiguring accident couldnt somehow befall him... say spontaneous combustion that gets put out before it kills him but after melting off his face.

**Vicious88** · Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 7:44 pm Post subject:

Ah, that's always fun too.
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